Quirks (Post #2)


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“Quirks” Post #2   Lessons Learned by a Dating Widower


My wife had only died 8 months ago.  Guess I should have known that I was dating too soon.  Will never forget that first date.  Drove 1 1/2 hours to meet Alice on a mutually agreed day, at a mutually agreed restaurant, at a mutually agreed time.  


You know, through the last 2 years of dating, I’ve learned that the Lord sends subtle messages to get your attention.  Unfortunately, I’m too stubborn to admit or accept His direction.  He did that evening . . . as she didn’t show for 15 min . . . for 30 min . . . for 45 min . . . for 1 hour . . .   Oh, yeah, Alice called to say she was running late.  but 90 minutes late????  Guess I learned why she was never married.  You’d think that I would have gotten ‘hit over the head’ by this less-than-subtle message that – perhaps I should delay my dating.  But, NO, not me.  Not “let-me-do-it-my-way” me!  


Did I mention that I met her on eHarmony? (One of many venues that allows type A people to “do-it-their-way”)  She was the intellectual type (hey, opposites attract, what can I say?).  I remember “checking with” my eldest son as we were doing some yard work together on the day of this 1st date – asking what he thought about me having dinner with another lady.  He was quite surprised, but politely respectful of my decision.  He should have tied me to the bushes we were trimming to keep me from wasting my time.  

Only dated Alice 1 time.  Her 90 minute delayed arrival was her demise.  Another lesson that I learned . . . I’ve got to get past the quirks of the women I’m dating.  OK, OK, so I’ve not learned that yet.  Still working on wearing ‘blinders’.   Did my wife of 38 years have any quirks . . .????  Hundreds, I guess.  But I LOVED HER!   And loving/dating/marrying her when I was 21, I was much more patient and willing to overlook those quirks.  But now that I’m 60+ years old, I have every right to raise the bar . . . to demand NO QUIRKS.  Well, at least NO DIFFERENT ONES that my wife had!  RIGHT!!??  



Embarrassed again!


Now that you’ve finished reading this post, I’m sure you have some thoughts on this topic, and I’d love to know what they are.  Feel free to post your comments, whether you disagree or agree with what I’ve learned.  I’d be indebted to learn from your thoughts and experiences too! 


10 thoughts on “Quirks (Post #2)

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